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These moods or down time emotional slumps do come and go more for some than others but everyone does have the capacity to release these anchors of ‘negative’ emotions. On the emotional scale of self esteem, a feeling of joyful invincibility is the higher more productive emotion for effective results. This is where your complete self, your divine self as I like to refer to it and your invented identity self are closely harmonizing with one another. Conflict between the two is absent.

Any time you are not experiencing happiness and joy as an emotional state of being, there is simply a conflict being called forth between your divine self and your identity self. There is nothing to do to have your divine self improve its state as it remains perfectly whole and complete. It is you without flaw, unlimited and purely loving. It sees and knows you as just that and all others as well. Its vibration floats in the domain of freedom, joy and bliss.

Your invented self on the other hand has the freedom to choose to focus on all aspects of the emotional scale and sometimes it locks on to, so to speak, ‘negative’ thoughts and feelings. It focuses on the appearance of things and resists those which do not feel good. It pushes against that which it is giving attention to. All that attention focused on our less than happy and joyful self and all those limiting and restrictive feelings and emotions cause us to get lost in a mood which wears on us until we slowly inch our way back up the scale.

When you are down and desire a quick jump start back into happiness and joy you need to know two things. One, you must create the experience of ‘willingness’. There requires a willingness to move yourself to a higher state of being and to release the emotions you are experiencing. If you are not, see if you are willing to be willing to experience happiness and joy.

The second thing to know is that you are a grateful and appreciative being. Once ready you can list two items pertaining to your thought menu of the day. Your thought menu is what I call the 70 thousand thoughts psychologists say the average person has during a given day. Whatever the actual number is irrelevant, there is something more startling, knowing that the average person thinks about 90 to 95% of the same thoughts they did today that they thought yesterday!

Pick two items you consider the nucleus of a domain of thought where there is a low emotional state. Then pick two you have a much better feeling about. Perhaps you have been thinking negatively about the state of the economy or the leaky faucet you must tend to. The happier thoughts may be about your child’s baseball game or the plans your spouse has for your birthday this weekend. Or your thoughts may all be about you, or the people you do or do not feel good about.

Whatever these are, fully and completely state as many things as you can about what you have an appreciation for and are grateful for associated with each of these four items alternating back and forth. Don’t look for the significant; begin with whatever is there, however small it might be. It doesn’t matter in fact. Be wildly generous in your looking for as many things as you can. If you can not state or write down 10 -20 things for each you might want to ask yourself if you are willing to.

This process is a thought process that you can do as you go about the balance of your day. There is no set amount of time and if you take time out to do it that’s fine too. But be sure to really get in touch with those things you have an appreciation for and that you are grateful for associated with the items you identified. Sometimes you’ll find emotions that you just seem to not want to let go of, see if you are willing to experience yourself releasing them through an imaginary window in your chest. Be happy, be joyful, and seek your joyful invincibility.

Better informed than ever before, parents have tremendous responsibility. They are trying their best to take care of their kids, their jobs, and their relationships. Since completing to-do lists is virtually impossible, guilt inevitably trickles down the spine of most conscientious parents and is an emotion most mothers and fathers are intimately familiar with.

Parents feel guilty for all sorts of reasons. It crops up when children need attention but there’s work to do. Before birth, day dreams about babies are wonderful. However, the demands of late night and early morning feedings are exhausting, and parents feel guilty about being stressed out and overwhelmed.

Parents also worry when their kids aren’t doing well. “What am I doing wrong,” they ask themselves. Or if they see that their own problems, divorce or illness for example, are affecting their sons and daughters, parents often blame themselves but feel unsure about what else to do. Moms and dads want things to go well for their kids. On any given day, though, the pressures of modern life influence whether parents effectively respond or over-react to the daily demands of child-rearing.

After a long day at work or a day with the kids, parents are tired. Some days they’re just not up for an argument and they snap at their unsuspecting little ones. The unrelenting routines of everyday life can feel discouraging. So despite good intentions, some days end in chaos. This is parenthood!

On these days, parents are inclined to judge themselves harshly. But unforgiving self-talk drains energy lowers self-esteem, causes depression, anxiety or any number of unexplained ailments.

Find a New Perspective

People tend to think that they wouldn’t feel so bad inside if they had a more traditional two parent family, a better job, or more money. They believe there are other parents who don’t suffer with bouts of guilt or doubt. In reality, there’s no escaping painful feelings. Individual circumstances vary, but troubling times and disturbing emotions are an inextricable part of the parenting journey. Emotions, even negative ones, are not character flaws or signs of weakness, they’re signs of life.

If guilt and self-doubt are unavoidable, what’s a parent to do? Exploring the emotional tone of one’s own childhood is a good place to start. Ignoring or minimizing hurtful memories won’t make them go away. Buried feelings leave parents susceptible to turning on themselves or on their children – no matter how many times they’ve promised themselves otherwise.

Mothers and fathers who grew up in a guilt-ridden environment are prone to feel guilty as adults. They learned to feel guilty at an early age and this self-concept continues, unless it’s confronted. Plus, parents with this kind of background are more likely to use guilt on their children to get what they want from them. “You should feel ashamed of yourself” is a common parental reprimand, but one that cuts deeply into a child’s self-worth.

Regardless of its source, guilt is part of life and part of parenting. When it’s unending and debilitating, professional counsel is beneficial. But it is normal and actually helpful for parents to feel bad when they make a mistake (and mistakes are inevitable). “This feels terrible; I don’t want to do that again.”

Painful experiences are important opportunities to ask “Why did this happen? What am I feeling? What do I need to do next?” This approach offers hope for meaningful change, instead of continuing a never-ending cycle of blame or self-criticism.

Kindness and generosity are a cinch when life is skipping along at a steady pace. Forgiving flaws and rethinking poor judgment takes maturity and compassion. Parents who demonstrate these qualities are helping their children to learn them.

Love and forgiveness are powerful and effective antidotes when parental shortcomings interfere with family life. Parents may not always find their higher self. But when they do, the whole family benefits.

Some people pride themselves on never getting angry.

I was talking to a client in my psychotherapy practice who says she never gets angry. At the time she was telling me about a recent experience that ruined her weekend. She described an disagreement with her roommate that left her feeling really depressed. She ended up staying inside all weekend mulling over what had happened, what each of them had said, and how miserable she felt.

What seemed clear to me, but not so clear to her, was that the conflict with her roommate made her mad. But, because she doesn’t allow herself to express any anger, it got converted into depression–which for many is much more socially acceptable. Here’s a case where finding a safe way to express her anger at her roommate would be a healthier alternative to staying in bed all day.

Some people who say they never get angry are actually really good at managing their anger in a way that it does not show; not even to themselves. But think about your every day life, aren’t there times when things don’t go your way…even small things? It would be normal to have some anger when things don’t go your way. Maybe you call it frustration or irritation rather than anger. It is a good idea to identify this anger, whether or not you decide to do anything about it. Name it. Understand why it exists. Use it, if there is a way to make it useful. Unnamed or unexpressed anger can leak out in different ways that are not very useful–like depression.

To help with this problem, I suggested finding safe ways to express anger. Safe expression means that the anger is expressed in a way that doesn’t hurt anyone. Some safe options include writing out what is bothering you. This could take the form of a letter to someone–a letter that you may not send–or making a journal entry that expresses the depth of your upset. Talking to someone who is a good listener is a good option. Physical activity that allows you use up the energy in a productive way, including exercise, is a great outlet.

Anger creates energy. It is commonly referred to as the fight or flight response. The body prepares itself for a struggle or pulls together its energy to flee from the danger. Managing anger involves finding something to do with this energy. Diffusing this energy can take forms like walking around the block or other exercise. Sometimes, though, the energy can be turned into a useful, motivating thing.

Think about organizations like Mothers Against Drunk Driving. Someone got energized to take action to create change in the larger society. Laws have been passed, regulations enacted, programs developed, all because someone became irritated enough and then used that irritation to find a solution to the problem.

Anger is a natural emotion that all of us experience from time to time and it does not have to be destructive, abusive, or violent in its expression.

What is emotional intelligence? Simply put, it is the capacity of a person to interpret and actualize upon human emotions, both outwardly and inwardly. An “emotionally intelligent” person is able to know and to control the emotions of themselves, of other people and of entire groups of people. Within the field of study of emotional intelligence, there are five basic “competencies” that are learned skills and capabilities that allow a person to utilize their emotional intelligence processes to affect themselves and others.

According to Daniel Goleman’s model, the competencies of emotional intelligence break down into “intra-personal” and “inter-personal”, the first category dealing with a person’s own emotions and the latter dealing with emotional interaction between two or more people. Here are the five competencies of emotional intelligence.

SELF-AWARENESS
Self-awareness is the ability to focus attention on your own emotional state in any situation, and being able to effectively process this state and use what you know to better inform your future actions. Say you are angry. A self-aware person will not only know they are angry, but the cause of the anger, and will use this knowledge to decide his or her next step.

SELF-REGULATION
Self-regulation allows you to select the particular emotion you wish to experience at a given moment, in a particular situation. This process takes a lot of practice and a considerable amount of self-control, but mastering it will allow you to take ownership of your emotions, and free you from being anyone else’s emotional victim because you and you along will manage your emotional reaction. It needs to be noted, however, that self-regulation is more than merely “stuffing” or ignoring negative emotions. It is an active process that takes considerable training and focus to accomplish.

SELF-MOTIVATION
Self-motivation allows you to use your emotions to affect positive change in your life through dedicated pursuit of your goals, no matter the obstacles in your way. This process requires you to employ your emotions toward near-complete positivity, optimism, confidence and persistence. It is essential that you release the negative emotional reactions to achieve self-motivation.

EMPATHY
The empathy competency of emotional intelligence is the ability to feel what another person is feeling, and to see and feel life from their perspective. This allows you to rationally and effectively consider their emotional state and how best to guide them to a state of positivity and optimism.

NURTURING RELATIONSHIPS
Nurturing relationships requires you to sincerely demonstrate an emotional interest and compassion for others. Your actions and words must reflect a proper respect for the effort of others with the goal of compromise and teamwork at the heart of the endeavor.

Many people fail to attract what they want, because they stop at the stage of a visualization of their mind desires. But this is not enough. Visualizing something without a strong feeling of emotion will not do the law of attraction work fully for you. Here are some tips of how emotions will enhance your visualization and transform your reality into what you want.

The Proper Visualization

There is something called by Neville when visualizing your mind desires, your dreams, your goals. He suggested to add all sensory feel of the projected goal, as if you were already where you want to be, in the goal environment; You “see” your projected goal, your mind desire, then imagine you already “hear,” then you “smell” as if you were there, and you feel the wind, the temperature, and so on of the goal. In other words, you live your goal in advance.

The Catalyze: Insert Emotions

The Visualization is incomplete if you do not insert emotions. Why? Because emotions are like a catalyzing effect, a booster factor for the prompt realization of your dreams. Emotions are a crucial factor in the realization of your mind desire. They are a major pillar in the law of attraction.

Set Your mind to attract even more

When you feel good, happy, you attract more of what you want. You are in the “zone.” Practice being focused on the positive in your life experience, so your mind is receptive to positive emotions such as love, happy feeling, caring feeling, and all the feel good emotions. Try to avoid falling in the negative feelings such as, being upset, fear, anger, frustration, anxiety, and other emotions in the feel no good property. The negative feelings are the result of a bad habit. Look at the unhappy people: they are constantly talking about negative things, judge others, and focus their mind on the negative events. They do not see objectively life, but subjectively and negatively their day to day life.

Tips to change your general feelings and emotions

You have to dress you mind in order to feel good, feel successful. Here are some tips you want to use to get to the high energy mind set.

Dress as a successful person, act as a successful person.

Be the change you want to see in your world.

Think positively, so your inner reality is building already your coming outer reality.

Love yourself and love your life. in the present, in the Here and the Now.

Do not worry. Be confident. Believe. Yes, Believe.

Keep practicing the positive emotions, and all you want will magically appear in your life.

For example: If you are looking for the love of your life. Believe, know that someone is out there looking for you. you can attract him, so attract him by seeing him! For example affirm: “I am attracting the Love of my live: the love of my life is attracting me.”

Believe!

Belief is can be good and can be bad. Your general perception of the world as you know it is based of belief. It is based on a belief system that started right in your family with your parents and relatives, then in preschool, at school, at high school with your school mates and friends, at work, with your co-workers and your boss, at church or temple with the religious leader, and in general with the people you see often, your friends. All what they say make you feel good or bad, and form, sculpt, model your belief system through emotion.

The Two Basic Emotions and Your Mind

Believe it or not, all emotions stem from two basic primal emotions: Love, and Fear. Let me elaborate this for you in the world of entertainment. If you could group all movies and books into two categories, you could sort them all into Love and Fear. Love: romantic comedies, comedies; Fear: all the rest Horror, War, Epic movies, Spy, Thrillers, Speed, scary situations. When we go to the movies, or watch a movie at home, it is in search of one of these strong emotions.

Under Love: friendship, good leadership, accomplishment for humanity, self accomplishment, true stories of success over poverty, health issue, etc.

Under Fear: Horror stories, Thrillers, True stories that end up in a bad ending, Spy movies, war stories, Epic stories, and all kinds of stories telling you have no control of your life.

Conclusion:

Since you know now that emotions is a critical factor in the realization of your dreams, mind desires, and goals, try now to visualize not only with all your sensory perception of your goal, but boosting it with strong emotions (positive of course), and a strong belief that you can attract that goal, that dream of your you so cherish. Feel good, see life with a positive mind, and miracles after miracles will show up in your life. When I say believe, believe there is someone around helping you and arranging your life for you. You are not alone.

Love, Happiness, Abundance to You!

Due to the wrong beliefs about how acupuncture works, many people develop wrong preconceived notion about it. Acupuncture treatment appears mysterious to most people who question the legitimacy of acupuncture as a healing practice. To be discussed by this article are three mistaken beliefs about acupuncture:

Needles play the most important role in acupuncture theory.

Most people regard the needles used in acupuncture treatment as the most important aspect of acupuncture. This belief is not true. Acupuncture theory involves a lot of things and the needles is just part of the treatment. There are other things that need to be considered in acupuncture treatment including qi flow, acupoints, and meridians. For an acupuncture treatment to take place, several factors play important functions in the healing process.

There is no connection between emotion and the physical.

In modern medical practice, emotion is separated from the physical ills of the body. In acupuncture theory, acupuncturists consider several external factors that influence qi flow in the body which make it different compared with modern medical methods. Acupuncture experts cite various factors that affect the flow of qi in the body including the needles, lifestyle of the patient, and his or her emotions.

Medicine is not needed in acupuncture.

There are some cases in which medicine is needed in acupuncture but these medicines are purely herbal and can help in balancing or controlling the flow of qi in your body. The use of herbal medicines supports the stand of acupuncture on non-invasive healing. These medicines can help you go out and achieve better results in your acupuncture treatment.

The information discussed above will help clear your minds about acupuncture theory. If your friends have questions about acupuncture treatment, you could use the information above to address their doubts on the topic.